Each culture has its unique way to raise children.
Inside each culture there are many different branches of believes about education itself.
And as far as I could observe by talking to different parents from all over the world, in different settings and different believes about raising their children – one thing was salient in every one of them:
How dearly they loved the children. How they give every thing they have to be the best parent they could. And I think each one of them did very well.
I am not an expert in education, and I surely understood that there is no “only right way” to raise children, be a parent.
So what you will find here are topics – not about” the only right way” – But about ways to reach your children’s heart and strengthen their spirit, and get the result in your children you aim for.
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice”
Todays Post is not an easy read. However, I can assure you – it is of utmost importance. It is a “must” for every parent to get educated about this subject. As I entered motherhood, I discovered this intense feeling I didn’t even know the existence of, before: This...read more
Being a family implies that we live in a certain society, a culture, that has its values, norms and demands. As parents we often are influenced by that pressure to fit in, to have children, who are adapted, quick and clever enough. Many times, the temptation for us...read more
Have your kids ever asked why they should do certain things a certain way? Have you ever found yourself answering them, that this is just the way everyone does it? Or did you ever meet a big amount of rules – at your church, workplace or in your own childhood – asking...read more
Last week we have been looking at two roles that children are easily adopting in any family. The roles themselves aren’t bad, they are simply part of a family dynamic. However, the more we as parents understand what’s happening, the more we can reach out to our...read more
Like every year, spending Christmas celebrations with our families has been an interesting experience. On one hand, I love it. I enjoy having the privilege to celebrate with my siblings and parents, to celebrate with my in laws. However, it is challenging too. Simply...read more
As we have seen in the two previous articles, God does not long for people to serve him like slaves. He does not demand of us to live at the mercy of him and others around us. He showed us by example that he himself never did that. That he defined “surrender” and “to...read more
In our western world a nursery (in GB the word “crèche” is used) has become indispensable. They allow parents to combine work and family. In some families it is unavoidable in their life situations, for others it’s a cultural norm, for some a standard of living....read more
There is a popular belief (at least in the German-speaking world) that it's normal that siblings quarrel. That siblings have rivalries. And even that siblings can be mean to each other. Well, in my family of origin this was certainly true. We not only quarreled,...read more
These days I found myself in a situation with a child that reminded me of the article I wrote last week. I have a very social little girl. She loves to play with others. She’s a very happy and excited girl when there are group activities in school. After the summer...read more
In the last Article we saw the first three ways of attaching. We talked about Physical proximity, Sameness and Belonging & Loyalty. Here we go for the ways of attaching through Significance, feeling and being known: Significance “This way of pursuing closeness and...read more
As announced in the last article, here we go for the different ways of attachment. Working on it I realized again how ample the content of this topic is, so I decided to divide them into two parts. Today, we will look at the first three ways. It is important to...read more
Bonding. Attachment parenting. Friendship with my kids. In the last years, these words became a definition of something that is actually defined in a completely wrong way. The definition is related as a direct relationship with spoiled children that do not respect any...read more
With our lives, we influence our environment, other people. This is true for all our relationships. Yet the strongest impact we have is on our family, on our own children. In this, none of us is powerless. No matter what thoughts or feelings we have about that matter...read more
Last Tuesday I was watching the weather forecast: I could see, that Wednesday would be the last summer day in the mountains of Switzerland, probably for the whole year! I love the mountains. We have beautiful mountains and alps in Switzerland. They are amazing during...read more
Considering that family is the foundation of our society I think it’s crazy that there is so little support and help, so little valuable teaching found on how to create a healthy family. If you are like me, there are very few areas where you can simply imitate your...read more
Today’s topic is pretty close to my heart. This subject got me into trouble a few times now since I am a mom. People have been telling me, that I should let my children be more independent, teach them not to cling as much to us as they do, and take time out to be as a...read more
As parents we have the unique privilege to lead our children through each one of the developmental stages. There are stages that are more challenging for us than others and it surely has to do with our own background – and the information we have about the child’s...read more
There was a Situation with one of my boys I felt so overwhelmed by his sweetness and heart. I realized that I can hurt my child, without doing anything “wrong”. During the rest of my day I was reflecting in the fact that raising kids is much more than just following...read more
Sometimes, per social media I receive some tagged image from friends of mine that are mothers too. These images have text on it, and it says something like: “There is no superhero mom, there are real moms who try to give their best, and sometimes fail”. These texts...read more
I will start with the quote Samuel Martin closed his chapter with. Dr. Randall Heskett of the Toronto school of Theology said: “Punishment must never be equated with discipline. True discipline teaches children how to live lives that are rich and full. Training and...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 3)
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13.24Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy Soul spare for his crying Proverbs 19.18Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 2)
In this Article I will, like promised, cover the nine names in Hebrew to name a child. Then we will see what this has to do with our five scriptures in Proverbs, including the rod and spanking a child.Like I said in the first part of this Article, the material I am...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 1)
In many Christian books, it is out of question that this is a command from God, and if we want to obey him, we have to use the rod. (…or other ways of physical correction) On the Internet and in books from “Christian experts in raising children” you can find the...read more
Our three year-old sweet boy can experience a lot of emotions, do a whole lot of crying, just because he can’t have something the way he wants it. He then sits just around and cries his eyes out. Today, while eating breakfast on a relaxing Easter Monday, I poured some...read more
Some thoughts to consider before implementing advices from so-called experts into your family In this article I will highlight a few points, what matters to me with every book I read. With those points you can then decide for yourself, which books you want to apply on...read more
Any form of parenting Discipline does not have that very Power in a Child’s Life compared to this amazing Truth
In every bookstore, there is a big choice of books for raising kids. There are the famous ones, “everyone” buys, dependent on social / religious culture you live in. However, not many of them talk about this amazing truth.In Switzerland we have “Babyjahre”...read more
In order to help our children to enter their blueprint, it is important to understand what it is all about. In this Metaphor, there is . an Architect A Contractor The Bulilding supplier A little castle and the Blueprint God is the creator of the Child. So in this...read more
It is vital for the child to feel loved. To feel known and totally accepted. However, let's be real. There are kids we feel challenged to give them exactly that from the depths of our hearts. Because they are difficult for us to understand, as they are so different...read more