– from Identity
to destiny –
Culture is not culture until it shows up in the children
Welcome to Family that matters!
This page is about the many valuable things I learned in the process of becoming this Wife, Mother and Woman of destiny I am today!
You are invited to look around – and enjoy!
Every Sunday, there will be a new Article published. I am looking forward to read your comments!
There is a popular belief (at least in the German-speaking world) that it's normal that siblings quarrel. That siblings have rivalries. And even that siblings can be mean to each other. Well, in my family of origin this was certainly true. We not only quarreled,...read more
These days I found myself in a situation with a child that reminded me of the article I wrote last week. I have a very social little girl. She loves to play with others. She’s a very happy and excited girl when there are group activities in school. After the summer...read more
In the last Article we saw the first three ways of attaching. We talked about Physical proximity, Sameness and Belonging & Loyalty. Here we go for the ways of attaching through Significance, feeling and being known: Significance “This way of pursuing closeness...read more
As announced in the last article, here we go for the different ways of attachment. Working on it I realized again how ample the content of this topic is, so I decided to divide them into two parts. Today, we will look at the first three ways. It is important to...read more
Bonding. Attachment parenting. Friendship with my kids. In the last years, these words became a definition of something that is actually defined in a completely wrong way. The definition is related as a direct relationship with spoiled children that do not respect any...read more
With our lives, we influence our environment, other people. This is true for all our relationships. Yet the strongest impact we have is on our family, on our own children. In this, none of us is powerless. No matter what thoughts or feelings we have about that matter...read more
Today is our 8th Anniversary! I love to be married. And I love to be married to this amazing person that is Benny. And I love the security and peace I feel concerning our union and family. I was pondering on why we feel that way, and I figured out the following: We...read more
Last Tuesday I was watching the weather forecast: I could see, that Wednesday would be the last summer day in the mountains of Switzerland, probably for the whole year! I love the mountains. We have beautiful mountains and alps in Switzerland. They are amazing during...read more
Considering that family is the foundation of our society I think it’s crazy that there is so little support and help, so little valuable teaching found on how to create a healthy family. If you are like me, there are very few areas where you can simply imitate your...read more
Today’s topic is pretty close to my heart. This subject got me into trouble a few times now since I am a mom. People have been telling me, that I should let my children be more independent, teach them not to cling as much to us as they do, and take time out to be as a...read more
As we have seen in the last Article, Emotions in itself are not bad. What our reactions to them is makes all the difference. It is so vital, that we recognize them and name them so we can do something about what is happening inside of us. In this article I provide a...read more
Are you an emotional person? Five points how you can handle your many emotions and help your child to do the same.
Emotions are a good and vital part of our lives. Some people live a pretty emotional life - others are less emotional. The approach to these emotions varies according to culture, upbringing, personality. Living in South America, I loved the "sangre...read more
I was doing some research about the upbringing of John Edwards. What I found here, was this: Both parents were known intellectuals and that shaped him from his early childhood days. His father was well respected as both a teacher and preacher. His mother was well...read more
written on July 1, 2017 by Larry Ballard Taken with permission from YWAM family ministry, These contrasting legacies provide an example of what some call the five-generation rule. “How a parent raises their child — the love they give, the values they teach, the...read more
As parents we have the unique privilege to lead our children through each one of the developmental stages. There are stages that are more challenging for us than others and it surely has to do with our own background – and the information we have about the child’s...read more
Recently my husband and I decided, to enroll in a Bible school for the next three years. My mother in law and my sister agreed to look after the four kids in the evenings and sometimes during days when we would be away. It felt right, and it was the perfect...read more
Family is a beautiful design. All it takes is getting pregnant and putting babies into this world. Or is it? Wherever you read this blog from, you have your unique story about your family of origin. You have your unique background, unique experiences. They may be...read more
Have you ever felt that you are not lovable, acceptable for who you truly are? The feeling of shame is a powerful emotion, and very often hidden deep inside, while you don’t even realize that this painful feeling of life is called “shame”. Shame is this powerful...read more
The past three weeks I spend some vacation time with my four kids, my sister and her kids in France on a campground. She rented a little cottage; I stayed in a tent right beside her place. We enjoyed the beach, the pool, the heat, the sand… and each other. We truly...read more
There was a Situation with one of my boys I felt so overwhelmed by his sweetness and heart. I realized that I can hurt my child, without doing anything “wrong”. During the rest of my day I was reflecting in the fact that raising kids is much more than just following...read more
Sometimes, per social media I receive some tagged image from friends of mine that are mothers too. These images have text on it, and it says something like: “There is no superhero mom, there are real moms who try to give their best, and sometimes fail”. These texts...read more
I will start with the quote Samuel Martin closed his chapter with. Dr. Randall Heskett of the Toronto school of Theology said: “Punishment must never be equated with discipline. True discipline teaches children how to live lives that are rich and full. Training and...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 3)
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13.24 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy Soul spare for his crying Proverbs 19.18 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 2)
In this Article I will, like promised, cover the nine names in Hebrew to name a child. Then we will see what this has to do with our five scriptures in Proverbs, including the rod and spanking a child. Like I said in the first part of this Article, the material I am...read more
Why using the rod on your child and spanking is not found in the Bible: An old truth in a new light. (Part 1)
In many Christian books, it is out of question that this is a command from God, and if we want to obey him, we have to use the rod. (…or other ways of physical correction) On the Internet and in books from “Christian experts in raising children” you can find the...read more
The big difference between character and personality and why many times, the excuse “I’m just like that” doesn’t work.
Having four children being so amazingly different from each other reminds me all over again that we are all made with different personalities. That even coming from the same family, having the same parents, education and background, siblings can be so different,...read more
Our three year-old sweet boy can experience a lot of emotions, do a whole lot of crying, just because he can’t have something the way he wants it. He then sits just around and cries his eyes out. Today, while eating breakfast on a relaxing Easter Monday, I poured some...read more
Some thoughts to consider before implementing advices from so-called experts into your familyIn this article I will highlight a few points, what matters to me with every book I read. With those points you can then decide for yourself, which books you want to...read more
Any form of parenting Discipline does not have that very Power in a Child’s Life compared to this amazing Truth
In every bookstore, there is a big choice of books for raising kids. There are the famous ones, “everyone” buys, dependent on social / religious culture you live in. However, not many of them talk about this amazing truth.In Switzerland we have “Babyjahre”...read more
I’ve heard many times parents with adult children telling me: You will see, when you’re children are adult, they will tell you what you all made wrong. You will have rebel teenagers too, that’s just the way it is. I agree that my children will surely (hopefully) tell...read more
In order to help our children to enter their blueprint, it is important to understand what it is all about. In this Metaphor, there is . an Architect A Contractor The Bulilding supplier A little castle and the Blueprint God is the creator of the Child. So in this...read more
It is vital for the child to feel loved. To feel known and totally accepted. However, let's be real. There are kids we feel challenged to give them exactly that from the depths of our hearts.Because they are difficult for us to understand, as they are so different...read more
It is possible for a child to not feel really “at home” in its own family. To miss this sense of really being known, loved, belong and be a vital part of the family. Here are five powerful steps to help you evaluate your own family, and the basics to take your own...read more