Five powerful steps to let your kids feel „at home“ in your family.
It is possible for a child to not feel really “at home” in its own family. To miss this sense of really being known, loved, belong and be a vital part of the family. Here are five powerful steps to help you evaluate your own family, and the basics to take your own practical steps to improve the feeling of your own kids if needed.
2. Realize that family relationships are the most important. As parents we have the power to edify the unity and the feeling of belonging for every child by teaching them that siblings-relationship are the most important. More important than friends who come play from outside. When I have kids from outside at our house, and they try to get my oldest (kindergarten-age) to laugh about how his little sister is drawing …. I always tell them: In our family we don’t laugh about each other. NEVER. And we don’t allow others from outside to do so. I teach them that siblings are siblings forever. Friends come and go. So every child does feel save and “home” in his own family.
Look beyond their behaviour. Look beyond your own exhaustion, sorrow or fears. If you are like me, then there are situations that are not so easy and it takes self-control and determination to not let the kids suffer from how you feel right then. But let them know that they are loved. Let them know that you will be there for them no matter what … That you see how amazing they are (if you don’t it’s time to dig for the gold in your child)-That they are fearfully and wonderfully made. And tell them. Daily. And don’t worry. They will never get spoiled by you doing that.